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Parentage Orders New York

June 1, 2021 PFLAGLI

Parentage Orders in New York have just become an easier option for lesbian families.

Parentage orders in New York are a reality after the passage of the Child Parent Security Act, a long-awaited statute that acknowledges how gay and lesbian couples and individuals have families and offers a direct course to legal parentage. As of February 15, 2021, New York has joined the legion of states that not only legalize gestational surrogacy, but also recognize how gay and lesbian couples and individuals have families and assist them in protecting those families with a direct pathway to parenthood. parentage orders New York

Parentage Orders in New York are now a reality. Before February 15, 2021, the only clear way of establishing parentage in New York was through second or step-parent adoption. Many couples still choose to establish parentage through the adoption process because it is the gold standard of parentage. There is Supreme Court precedent for the recognition of adoption orders when the court refused to hear a case challenging the validity of an adoption order for a gay couple. There are still specific indications when adoption is preferred over a parentage order, however, if you are not a couple that travels Internationally or if you have no plans to move to a gay-unfriendly state, the New York statute will provide the protection your family deserves.

The process for a parentage order differs slightly between Counties, but there is some regularity that you can count on. First, the question of jurisdiction remains one that hinges on the cost of the process. If you choose to file in Supreme Court, you will receive an Order from that court that will most likely result without a court appearance. There are some costs associated with this method. When you file in Supreme Court, one of the procedural elements is the filing of a Request for Judicial Intervention (RJI), which comes with the cost of a $350.00 filing fee. When you file in Family Court, the case is heard by a Support Magistrate. There is no filing fee, however, there may be an appearance required.

parentage orders new york If COVID-19 restrictions apply, appearances are virtual. This means that you will not have to go to court but log in to a virtual hearing online. COVID-19 will at some point in the future be an issue of the past. Families will have to weigh the costs of filing and the costs of appearing in court.

The specifics of filing will include a Petition, which collects the necessary information the court needs to process the request. The court also wants to hear from either the clinic that facilitated the pregnancy, the anonymous provider of sperm or the petitioners if they used home insemination to get pregnant. The Court wants to make sure that all Parties who should be notified of the proceeding are accounted for. The Petition verifies that the petitioning couple has lived in the State of New York for the last six months, that they consented to the Assisted Reproduction, the proposed name of the child and when the child is due to be born, or when they were born.

For couples who have their families with the assistance of an anonymous sperm donor, the court will require a letter from the sperm provider to affirm that the donor was indeed anonymous and has no legal parentage rights to the child. For couples who work with a known, or directed, donor, the court will view a Known Donor Agreement as proof that the donor does not intend to be a parent. If there is no Agreement in place, your Attorney will have to draft an Affidavit that the Donor would sign to affirm their intentions to the court. The Support Magistrate hearing the case may also request that your donor appear at your hearing.

Parentage Orders New York

The fact that we now have Parentage Orders in New York is a huge step forward for LGBTQ families. While some couples will still choose to create legal parentage through second or stepparent adoption, we have another, lower cost option. Parentage Orders in New York are a simple, straightforward way to affirm a family’s legal status and are available in many States across the Country. Thanks to The Child Parent Security Act, our families are more secure and the Courts are learning more about how we have our families and protect them from challenge.

By Anthony M. Brown, June 1, 2021. www.TimeForFamilies.com

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Will Obergefell Survive The New Supreme Court?

November 29, 2020 PFLAGLI

Will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court?

This is the greatest concern / fear of many in the LGBTQ community. From the moment we learned of the heartbreaking death of Ruth Bader Ginsburg, this question became the most frequently asked by scholars, activists, lawyers and members of the LGBTQ community. What started as a hypothetical question became real on Monday, November 23, 2020. Will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court

What happened?

The Attorney General for the state of Indiana petitioned The Supreme Court in the case of Box v. Henderson, which poses the question, “Does a married same-sex parent have the same rights as a heterosexual married parent in regards to the presumption of parentage which attaches to marriage?” The presumption of parentage is the rule of law that creates a legal relationship between the spouse of a woman who gives birth to a child and the child to the spouse of the birth mother. How does this effect the Obergefell decision, which made marriage equality the law of the land in June of 2015? The answer to that question poses serious issues of equality and judicial conduct that we are just beginning to understand.

What did Obergefell say?

Will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court? First, we need to understand exactly what Obergefell said. In the Obergefell decision, the court stated not only that all states must issue marriage licenses to same-sex couples, that other states must recognize same-sex marriage licenses and that same-sex couples are entitled to marriage, “on the same terms and conditions as opposite-sex couples.” That means that all protections, including the marital presumption of parentage, shall redound to same-sex married couples.

Judicial bias?

The arrival of Box v. Henderson at The. Supreme Court is questionable for a few reasons. First, the case was last heard in the 7^th Circuit Court of Appeals, where a conservative three judge panel unanimously upheld the protections conferred in Obergefell to the 8 plaintiff married couples who are the heart of this case. But, they waited 3 years to issue an opinion. The average time between when this court hears a case and when it issues its decision is 3 months. If this case was handled in the normal time frame, it would have been before a Supreme Court that had already decided this issue twice before in favor of extending all marriage rights to same-sex couples. But now the court make-up is different, which leads me to the second issue that raises concern: the current Supreme Court requested that the Indiana Attorney General make the Writ of Certiorari, the petition to hear the case, directly. Why would a court that has twice decided an issue ask to rehear that same issue?

Will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court The court first decided this issue in Obergefell, and then again in 2017 in the case, Pavan v. Smith. In Pavan, the court held that states must issue birth certificates to same-sex couples in the same manner they issue them to opposite-sex couples. This means that the presumption of parentage (once referred to as the presumption of paternity) would make the father of a child born to his wife, even if that child was conceived with donor sperm, the legal parent of that child. The 8 plaintiff couples in the Box case are asking the court to have the presumption apply to their marriages the same way it applies to heterosexual married couples, even when there is not a biological connection between the spouse of the mother and the child.

To answer the question, “will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court?”, we must look to the strained strategy of the Indiana Attorney General, Curtis Hill. Hill is falsely declaring that a state should have the ability to acknowledge the, “biological distinction between males and females.” He is inferring that because only a man and a woman can biologically have a child together, only an opposite-sex married couple should have the protections that the martial presumption of parentage applies. Furthermore, one plaintiff couple in the Box case includes a woman who donated her egg to her partner who then gave birth. Both parents are “related” to the child under the law.

States rights

This insidious “state’s rights” approach gives the new conservative majority on the Supreme Court, the ones who asked for this case to be heard in the first place, the ability to drive a wedge directly into the heart of marriage equality. If the conservative Supreme Court sides with Indiana in Box, it will allow other states the ability to make distinctions between same-sex marriage and opposite-sex marriage. It would mandate that same-sex parents go through a costly and invasive adoption process to secure their legal right as a family. What the court would fail to realize is that the children would be the victims of this strategy. Leaving a child in legal limbo only serves to create insecurity in that child’s family.

Will Obergefell survive the new Supreme Court? We will soon get a clue. The new Supreme Court recently heard the case of Fulton v. The City of Philadelphia, which asked whether, among other questions, the government violates the First Amendment by defining a religious agency’s ability to participate in the state sponsored foster-care system mandating the inclusion of same-sex couples as foster parents. This religious liberty approach to equality, I fear, will be the first sign of the new Supreme Court’s willingness to strip the rights of same-sex couples away.

What can we do?

If there is anything to learn from this potentially disturbing road that the court appears to be heading down, it is to fight at your local level to ensure that protections are in place and that equality in marriage is preserved. Do everything you can now to prepare for the worst: get your estate plan in place, petition for a step-parent adoption or birth order if your state allows and start telling all of your friends and family about what is going on. While we may have thought that battle was a thing of the past, we are still warriors. We have always had to fight to protect our relationships and families, we know how to do it.

Anthony M. Brown, Esq. – www.timeforfamilies.com November 28, 2020

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Estate Planning and COVID-19 – Protecting What’s Most Important in a Time of Crisis

May 7, 2020 PFLAGLI

Estate Planning and COVID-19 – Protecting What’s Most Important in a Time of Crisis

Estate Planning and COVID-19 – Like so many of us during this pandemic, our anxieties have been at an all-time high. The sense of helplessness and the lack of a clear light at the end of the tunnel have many asking what they can do to better protect themselves and their families. The good news is that we are not completely helpless. Technology has made communicating easier and many states have adapted their current laws to make it easier to have a sense of control when it feels so distant. estate planning and COVID 19

First, with video conferencing technology, you can speak face to face with an attorney in your area. Many attorneys are offering complimentary video consultations and you don’t even have to leave your couch. This type of meeting is likely to become the new normal for attorney consultations and I for one couldn’t be happier.

Many of you may already have some valuable estate planning tools in place. Understanding the difference between probate assets v. non-probates assets is the best place to start. If you have a 401(k), an IRA, a life insurance policy or own property as joint tenants with right of survivorship, you have already created an estate plan without knowing it. Any assets that has a designated beneficiary or that you own “jointly” with someone else, passes directly to that beneficiary or joint owner upon your death. That is good news when you consider that this aspect of your estate planning may be immune to COVID-19.

Other important benefits that had been instituted in New York State, for instance, stem from Executive Orders signed by the Governor allowing for the remote notarization of documents (NY Executive Order 202.7) and also the remote witnessing of Will signings (NY Executive Order 202.14). Almost every state has instituted either a remote notary order, a remote witnessing order, or both. Here is a good place to look to see if your state has such orders. While each state is different, the goal is to make it easier (easier that even before the pandemic) for people to secure their families and assets.

foster parents How do these remote sessions allow for estate planning and COVID-19? Each state will have a different set of requirements, but In NY, all parties must be on a Zoom or Skype call simultaneously and in the State of New York, the signers must show their IDs to the notary or witnesses, the signatures must take place in sight of the notary or witnesses. The signers must fax or scan the documents to the attorney supervising the Will signing, or the notary public, who will then have the witnesses sign, or the notary will notarize the documents. IMPORTANT: this must happen on the same day as the signing.

It is a good idea to conform the notarization by adding language stating that the signing or notarization are occurring in accordance with the specified executive order. Also, you may want to consider signing the documents again in the direct presence of a notary after the pandemic has abated as a measure of caution. This is a suggestion and no mention of multiple signing is present in the current NY Executive Order.

It is important to remember that if you have children and you have not named a guardian for them in your Will ( in most states it is the only document that a court looks to in determining your choice for a guardian should something happen to you and your child’s other parent), now is the time to act. And if you have been thinking about reviewing your complete Estate Plan, or just your Last Will and Testament, now is the perfect time.

So if you are asking what you can do about your estate planning and COVID-19, there are options. Consult your local attorney to find out the specifics of your state. Ask for a video conference so you can speak face to face. Be proactive and make the most of this quarantine time. We are doing so much to protect our communities, let’s protect our families at the same time.

Timeforfamilies.com, May 7, 2020 by Anthony M. Brown, Esq.

Contact Anthony at [email protected].

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Legal Surrogacy in New York – Albany lawmakers pass landmark legislation

April 2, 2020 PFLAGLI

Legal Surrogacy in New York – Albany lawmakers pass landmark legislation

Legal Surrogacy in New York – Albany lawmakers pass landmark legislation, The Child Parent Security Act. In a marathon budget session, New York lawmakers passed The Child Parent Security Act, the most protective and forward-thinking surrogacy legislation in the country. Only Michigan and Louisiana continue to ban gestational surrogacy for LGBT individuals and couples, Michigan banning gestational surrogacy for all Michiganders. legal surrogacy in New York

While legal surrogacy in New York seemed doomed after it failed to be brought to the floor for a vote last year in the Assembly after passage in the Senate and vocal support of the Governor, this year the Child Parent Security Act was tied to the budget. This move forced lawmakers to affirmatively support or oppose the Bill, something that they had been reticent to do in June of 2019. The bill becomes the law of New York on February 15, 2021.

The reality of legal surrogacy in New York is the product of a massive effort on the part of many organizations and individuals. From Men Having Babies to The Women’s Bar of New York, several organizations have stepped up to the plate to make legal surrogacy in New York a reality. Ron Poole-Dayan, Executive Director of Men Having Babies, the non-profit organization that has spearheaded educational and ethical surrogacy initiatives around the world, said, “The CPSA is the most comprehensive, thoughtful and ethical surrogacy legislation ever drafted. It is particularly important now in the midst of a health crisis, to pass this legislation that provides New Yorkers an ethical and affordable path to the realizing their parenthood dreams. This is landmark legislation and we are proud of our lawmakers for taking this important step to help LGBT families prosper.” “It’s an amazing day and it’s nice to be able to celebrate in these dark times. The bill only passed when the issue grew into a moment and everyone played an important role,” stated Denise Seidleman, the New York attorney who was instrumental in drafting the legislation.

“We are overjoyed for New York families, as they finally are able to access gestational surrogacy if they need it to build their family. This has been a marathon, with many teammates along the way. This kind of win takes people raising their voice and advocating – we thank everyone who did just that. A huge thanks to RESOLVE advocate Risa Levine, and the Protecting Modern Families Coalition that got this over the finish line. We are honored to work alongside an incredible coalition,” said Barb Collura, CEO and President of RESOLVE, The National Fertility Association.

“This is a game changer! It will bring so much opportunity for our local IP’s, as well as our local clinics and potential surrogates. Being an east coast based agency, Circle has a lot of intended parents who live in NY and the entire tri-state area,” said Jen Rachman, the New York Representative for Circle Surrogacy, a Boston based surrogacy agency.

How This Law is Unique

legal surrogacy in New York This legislation is unique in several ways. First, it contains a Surrogates Bill of Rights, which is the first of its kind in the country. It provides specifically for independent counsel, health and welfare decision making authority during the pregnancy and full medical and legal informed consent of all New York women acting as surrogate mothers for intended parents. It also provides for psychological counseling, life insurance and the ability of the surrogate to terminate the agreement prior to embryo transfer.

The Child Parent Security Act also creates two formal, but voluntary, registries, one for egg donors and the other for surrogate mothers, which tracks information on the number of times someone has served as a donor or surrogate, their health information and any other information that the Health Commissioner deems appropriate. The legislation also allows for consultation with The American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM) to develop the best medical screening guidelines for potential surrogates.

Establishment of Parentage

The Child Parent Security Act, while creating legal surrogacy in New York, also provides for the establishment of parentage for intended parents of surrogacy, as well as lesbian couples who use a known sperm donor to assist them in having their families. The process is known as a Pre-Birth Order and allows a court to issue a court order which terminates the rights of the surrogate and her spouse, or the known sperm donor, and affirms the legal parentage of the intended parents in a fully recognized court order which goes into effect at the moment of birth of the child. The law also officially recognizes parentage orders from other states, ensuring that NY parents who have previously had children with surrogates in other states and obtained birth orders in those states to establish parentage, can rest assured that the other state’s order will be recognized by statute in New York.

Before this law’s passage, intended parents who resided in New York had few options to establish parentage. Second or step parent adoption, a time consuming and somewhat invasive process, was the only way of establishing parental rights in New York.

The Ethics of The Child Parent Security Act

Regulation is the key to achieving ethical surrogacy. The Child Parent Security Act provides for more than just baseline protections and suggested protocols for an ethical journey. The Surrogates Bill of Rights is a huge step toward ensuring that the process is balanced and that the woman acting as a surrogate mother has agency and support throughout the process. The law also provides for the security of parentage, which assures that all parties are working toward a single goal of creating a family for the intended parent or parents.

New York Adapts to Modern Family Creation

New York, in the midst of a global pandemic, and under the powerful and consistent guidance of Governor Andrew Cuomo, has brought its family law into the 21^st century. Many, myself included, could not comprehend how such a progressive and diverse state could lag so far behind the rest of the country in its recognition and support of assisted reproduction. I was fortunate to sit on the Governor’s commission for the passage of The Child Parent Security Act and am a constituent of Assemblyperson Deborah Glick, who had opposed the legislation until last June. To her credit, she met with me to discuss the legislation and I was able to correspond with her staff about surrogacy on several occasions.

The passage of this legislation was truly a collaborative effort and the hard work of every person who worked on the coalition to pass the Child Parent Security act deserves credit for making legal surrogacy in New York a reality. Whether a cancer survivor, an infertile couple or an LGBT New Yorker, this law now allows for the option of remaining in New York to create a family. Finally, I want to thank Governor Cuomo for having the confidence in this law’s wisdom to add it to the budget bill. This strategy was instrumental in its passing and the Governor deserves a great deal of credit and gratitude. Legal surrogacy in New York! I have waited to celebrate this moment for years!

April 2, 2020 by Anthony M. Brown, Esq.

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Effect of COVID-19 on LGBTQ Family Planning

March 24, 2020 PFLAGLI

The Effect of COVID-19 on LGBTQ Family Planning is evolving and far reaching. It is also temporary.

Effect of COVID-19 on LGBTQ Family Planning – The COVID-19 pandemic has affected us all in ways more numerous to describe. Those of us with families have had to learn about home schooling, some the hard way (me). Everyone has had to adjust to what essentially has become a home quarantine situation and the emotional effects of social isolation. And we are all witness to the world going through a major change which will create a new reality for everyone when we emerge on the other side. But we will emerge on the other side. effect of COVID-19 0n LGBTQ family planning

While I myself have experienced the loss of a friend due to the virus, as well as the infection of a family member, I know that we all are doing our best to maintain a sense of normalcy and peace within. Practicing this type of self-care will help mitigate the effects of COVID-19 on LGBTQ family planning.

The effects of COVID-19 on LGBTQ family planning are very real. I have said in the past that there are no accidental pregnancies in the LGBTQ community. Everything is carefully thought out and planned in advance. However, the COVID-19 virus has created specific and real-world disruptions to our ability to create families.

For example, those were using, or planning to use, an IVF clinic for either surrogacy, artificial insemination (AI), intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF) procedures have experienced an actual shut down of normal operations. The clinic administrators that I have spoken with are optimistic that once the virus is contained, or at least the infection curve has flattened, that they will resume normal operations. For the time being, they are following ASRM guidelines. But they will also be dealing with backlogs of patients and procedures that may cause further delay in your family building timeline.

effect of COVID-19 0n LGBTQ family planning For lesbian couples who have thoughtfully chosen to use a clinic to assist in insemination, this delay is not only frustrating, it can also change the projected timeline of their families. Even those couples who choose anonymous sperm donors will most likely have to wait an indefinite period of time to undergo AI or IUI procedures. For those who choose known sperm donors, the essential DNA testing that is a prerequisite for clinic inseminations will also be on a delayed time schedule.

Gay male couples who are considering surrogacy are facing an even more complicated challenge. First, there will inevitably be a delay in the embryo creation aspect of the beginning of their journey due to IVF clinic shutdowns. If an intended parent already has embryos created, perhaps from a previous surrogacy journey, they may be in a better position. However, they will also experience a delay in embryo transfer until restrictions on IVF clinic activities are lifted. A silver lining is that they will be able to match with surrogates sooner, thereby shortening the time to pregnancy once those IVF restrictions are lifted.

Lesbian couples who choose a known sperm donor and home insemination may be the only group in our community who might not experience the delays discussed above. However, these types of inseminations will not have the benefit of genetic testing and, for the safety and security of all parties, must have carefully prepared legal agreements in place and a second or stepparent adoption plan incorporated into that agreement.

For those in the midst of a surrogacy journey, perhaps awaiting their carrier to give birth, the effects of COVID-19 on LGBT family planning can be particularly frustrating due to travel and hospital restrictions. Many hospitals are restricting the number of people who can be in a delivery room, particularly if they have traveled from an area that has been severely affected by COVID-19, like New York, Washington or California. Be prepared for snags in the road and lots of patience. You will go home with your child! You may have to be flexible in your travel plans, i.e. be prepared for long drives instead of air travel.

For lesbian couples and gay men with surrogates who are pregnant, there is a limited study from Wuhan China showing that babies of mothers with the virus were not effected, meaning that there was no vertical transmission.

Couples considering adoptions are also at a bit of a standstill depending on where they live in the US. Most state court systems have closed to all but “essential” proceedings. While I would argue that adoptions are essential, the courts have determined that they are not. I have several cases now awaiting the scheduling of finalization hearings that are simply on hold until the pandemic subsides. This includes private placement adoptions and step or second parent adoptions. This does not mean that making connections with birth parents must be put on hold, but the legal work that is required to effectuate the adoption may be delayed, causing additional anxiety. Effect of COIVD-19 on LGBTQ family planning

You may be asking what you can do to mitigate the effects of COVID-19 on LGBTQ family planning. I know that I am. Here are a few options that you can consider now.

Make sure that your Estate Plan is in place and up to date. Ask yourself, “Do I need a Will?” If you have named guardians for children in your Wills, please review to make sure that they are current and correct. If you have not created an Estate Plan, now is a good time to do the work to ensure that you have prepared for the unexpected. Here is a list of the documents you should be considering for your estate plan. We have also seen a relaxation of Notary laws allowing for online notarizations. This can make the execution of documents much easier in certain states.
If you have been thinking about creating your family, now is a great time to do more research. Men Having Babies is a great resource for surrogacy. “If These Ovaries Could Talk” is a wonderful podcast for all LGBTQ family planning. This should include speaking with your friends who have had children to get their perspectives on the process. It is also a really good time also to start thinking about the financial implications of having a family. Many of us will be irreparably financially harmed by the COVID-19 pandemic. Many of us will have to rethink the timelines we had anticipated would apply to our family planning journeys. You may want to meet with a financial professional to discuss the best way to get your family plan back on track.
Practice self-care! Whether you have children or not, staying calm and finding peace in your heart will help you get through this. While you might feel alone, you are not alone. Reach out and find solace in your friends and family if you can. Take walks if you can and get outside. Remind yourself of what will be on the other side of this experience.

If you have specific questions about how to address the effects of COVID-19 on LGBTQ family planning and estate planning, and you think I can be of help, please do not hesitate to reach out to me. Thank you for taking the time to read this and remember to breathe.

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Anthony M. Brown Featured on the Podcast, The Mentor Esq.

November 26, 2019 PFLAGLI

The Mentor Esq., a new legal podcast, recently featured Anthony M. Brown, founder of Time For Families Law, PLLC.

The Mentor Esq. was founded by Andrew J. Smiley, the famed personal injury attorney in New York City, to help younger attorneys, and seasoned attorneys, to learn more about specific areas of the law and about the profession of law itself. Episodes of The Mentor Esq. cover such topics as civil rights work to women in the law, as well as the ABCs of trial work, from opening statements to cross examination.

This is the first season of The Mentor Esq. and Andrew is currently planning for season 2. While there are numerous areas of the law, and attorneys, that he could focus on, I am grateful that Andrew allowed me to tell my story and share my concerns for the future of LGBTQ law in New York, as well as in the Country.

Anthony’s Start in The Law

Andrew reached out to Anthony to join The Mentor, Esq. podcast to discuss two separate issues. On episode four of the podcast, Anthony discusses how he came to the law after a career as an actor and a medical massage therapist. Andrew asked Anthony about how he started his practice and who guided him along the way. Click here to listen to Anthony talking about his pathway to the law. Younger attorneys will find this episode particularly interesting because Anthony discusses new ways to look at your career, especially at its inception, by thinking outside of the box and planning ahead for what you want your legal practice to focus on and how it intersects with your personal life.

LGBTQ Family Law

Andrew asked Anthony back to the podcast to discuss more specific topics such as LGBTQ family formation and the current state of surrogacy in New York. With current legislation in New York up for a vote very soon, Anthony discusses the specifics off The Child Parent Security Act – the pending law which would legalize compensated surrogacy and provide for parentage orders, which would allow for lesbian couples with known sperm donors to avoid the second parent adoption process altogether. The Child Parent Security Act would bring New York’s family law into the 21st century.

If these issues mean something to you, it is definitely worth your time to check out The Mentor Esq. A full episode list can be found here.

Anthony M. Brown, November 26, 2019

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anymore.  This counsel must address not only gamete (sperm and egg) donation, but also <a href="https://timeforfamilies.com/embryo-donation-may-be-the-answer-for-you/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >embryo donation</a> and adoption.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignright wp-image-5978 size-medium" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-300x200-1.jpe" alt="anonymous donation myth 2" width="300" height="200"/></p><p>If you think about it, there really is no such thing as anonymity any more.  This year, Facebook has over 2.3 billion monthly active users.  YouTube has 1.8 monthly active users.  Twitter has 320 million monthly active users.  With other social platforms such as Instagram, WeChat and Snapchat providing information on its users to anyone who has not perfected the art of keeping an account private, there are literally millions of ways to locate and identify a person with just a small amount of information.</p><p>I was recently in Seattle for the annual conference of The Academy of Adoption and Assisted reproduction Attorneys (<a href="http://www.adoptionart.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >AAAA</a>) where a fascinating presentation was given on just this subject.  One speaker demonstrated how, with the scant information she had provided when she was an anonymous egg donor, how it took her less than 5 minutes to find herself on social media.  She essentially did a facial recognition search which yielded a direct hit result.  And this was just possible from the picture she used in her egg donor profile.  That picture, coupled with her educational background, made a google search of her provide instant confirmation of identity.</p><p>The anonymous donor myth becomes even more implausible when you consider the influx in popularity of commercial DNA testing kits such as 23andMe and Ancestry.com.  And the implications for anonymous donors go way beyond gamete donation, but adoption as well.</p><p>The reality of the anonymous donor myth hit me hard, and in a completely unexpected way.   I was at work one afternoon when the phone rang.  It was a former client of mine with whom I had done estate and probate work.  Her voice was shaking when she called and I could tell that something was very wrong.  She told me that a relative of hers was contacted by a woman who explained that she was adopted at birth and that she had done an ancestry.com DNA test.  The test revealed that her birth mother was related to the relative of my former client.  She then related to me the story of how when she was younger she had been molested, and that molestation resulted in a pregnancy.  She gave the child up for adoption and had told no one in her family about it.  She was reliving that trauma knowing that her secret would most likely be revealed due to an inadvertent action by a relative of hers who had also had the DNA test performed and who had consented to its results being added to a national database.</p><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignleft wp-image-5977 size-medium" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-1-300x200-1.jpe" alt="anonymous donor myth 1" width="300" height="200"/>One of the most sacred areas of law for expectant mothers who, for many important reasons, cannot keep their children is called “infant safe haven” law.  This type of law decriminalizes the abandonment of unharmed infants in specified locations, such as hospitals, police stations or fire houses.  Mothers need to know that if their personal circumstance requires them to seek the protection of an infant safe haven law; they must be able to rely on the confidentiality that these laws were designed to provide them.  If mothers fear that their identity will be revealed through DNA or Facebook searches, they are less likely to place the child in a safe space.</p><p>The reality is that a medical professional or facility can do their best to shield the identity of a donor, but they have no control over the actions of others down the road, like the donor herself, the intended parents or even the child who is the result of ART.  One positive reaction I see in the ART community is the encouragement, with thorough explanation, of known gamete donation.  Known gamete donation can be helpful in many ways.  If a child has a medical issue that may be genetic, with a known donor, parents may access that information more easily.  <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3075381/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >Studies have also shown</a> that the earlier a child is told about his or her origin story, the better adapted they are.  Having a <a href="https://timeforfamilies.com/known-donor-dad-perspective/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >known gamete donor</a> may make the difference to a child questioning their genetic heritage. </p><p>The anonymous donor myth does not have to be a devastating blow to a family.  With proper professional, both legal and psychological, intended parents considering gamete donation will be able to make informed and beneficial decisions.  These decisions will have long lasting effects on the mental and physical well-being of their children.  As professionals, it is our duty to explore all possibilities with our clients and to ensure that they understand the implications of the anonymous donation myth.</p><p>By Anthony M. 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type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-adoption category-anonymous-donation category-anonymous-donation-myth category-anonymous-egg-donor category-anonymous-sperm-donor category-anonymousknown-donation category-assisted-reproductive-technology category-featured-articles category-known-donor category-known-sperm-donor category-surrogacy"><div class="blog-item-wrap"> <a href="https://pflagli.org/the-anonymous-donation-myth/" title="The Anonymous Donation Myth" > <img width="200" height="200" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-200x200.jpeg" class="single-featured wp-post-image" alt="" decoding="async" loading="lazy" srcset="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-200x200.jpeg 200w, https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-200x200-150x150.jpeg 150w, https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-200x200-60x60.jpeg 60w" 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0"/></p><h2 class="page-heading">The anonymous donation myth was, only a few years ago, not a concern to the many anonymous sperm and egg donors who have helped countless families around the world.</h2><p>The anonymous donation myth has only in the recent past become an issue that anyone considering becoming an anonymous donor, or anyone considering using an anonymous donor, must confront and plan for.  ART (assisted reproductive technology) lawyers must also factor into their counsel with all parties to an ART agreement the reality that there simply may be no such thing as anonymous donation anymore.  This counsel must address not only gamete (sperm and egg) donation, but also <a href="https://timeforfamilies.com/embryo-donation-may-be-the-answer-for-you/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >embryo donation</a> and adoption.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignright wp-image-5978 size-medium" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-2-300x200.jpe" alt="anonymous donation myth 2" width="300" height="200"/></p><p>If you think about it, there really is no such thing as anonymity any more.  This year, Facebook has over 2.3 billion monthly active users.  YouTube has 1.8 monthly active users.  Twitter has 320 million monthly active users.  With other social platforms such as Instagram, WeChat and Snapchat providing information on its users to anyone who has not perfected the art of keeping an account private, there are literally millions of ways to locate and identify a person with just a small amount of information.</p><p>I was recently in Seattle for the annual conference of The Academy of Adoption and Assisted reproduction Attorneys (<a href="http://www.adoptionart.org/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >AAAA</a>) where a fascinating presentation was given on just this subject.  One speaker demonstrated how, with the scant information she had provided when she was an anonymous egg donor, how it took her less than 5 minutes to find herself on social media.  She essentially did a facial recognition search which yielded a direct hit result.  And this was just possible from the picture she used in her egg donor profile.  That picture, coupled with her educational background, made a google search of her provide instant confirmation of identity.</p><p>The anonymous donation myth becomes even more implausible when you consider the influx in popularity of commercial DNA testing kits such as 23andMe and Ancestry.com.  And the implications for anonymous donors go way beyond gamete donation, but adoption as well.</p><p>The reality of the anonymous donation myth hit me hard, and in a completely unexpected way.   I was at work one afternoon when the phone rang.  It was a former client of mine with whom I had done estate and probate work.  Her voice was shaking when she called and I could tell that something was very wrong.  She told me that a relative of hers was contacted by a woman who explained that she was adopted at birth and that she had done an ancestry.com DNA test.  The test revealed that her birth mother was related to the relative of my former client.  She then related to me the story of how when she was younger she had been molested, and that molestation resulted in a pregnancy.  She gave the child up for adoption and had told no one in her family about it.  She was reliving that trauma knowing that her secret would most likely be revealed due to an inadvertent action by a relative of hers who had also had the DNA test performed and who had consented to its results being added to a national database.</p><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5977 alignleft" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/anonymous-donation-myth-1-300x200.jpe" alt="anonymous donation myth 1" width="300" height="200"/>One of the most sacred areas of law for expectant mothers who, for many important reasons, cannot keep their children is called “infant safe haven” law.  This type of law decriminalizes the abandonment of unharmed infants in specified locations, such as hospitals, police stations or fire houses.  Mothers need to know that if their personal circumstance requires them to seek the protection of an infant safe haven law; they must be able to rely on the confidentiality that these laws were designed to provide them.  If mothers fear that their identity will be revealed through DNA or Facebook searches, they are less likely to place the child in a safe space.</p><p>The reality is that a medical professional or facility can do their best to shield the identity of a donor, but they have no control over the actions of others down the road, like the donor herself, the intended parents or even the child who is the result of ART.  One positive reaction I see in the ART community is the encouragement, with thorough explanation, of known gamete donation.  Known gamete donation can be helpful in many ways.  If a child has a medical issue that may be genetic, with a known donor, parents may access that information more easily.  <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3075381/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >Studies have also shown</a> that the earlier a child is told about his or her origin story, the better adapted they are.  Having a <a href="https://timeforfamilies.com/known-donor-dad-perspective/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" rel="nofollow" >known gamete donor</a> may make the difference to a child questioning their genetic heritage. </p><p>The anonymous donation myth does not have to be a devastating blow to a family.  With proper professional, both legal and psychological, intended parents considering gamete donation will be able to make informed and beneficial decisions.  These decisions will have long lasting effects on the mental and physical well-being of their children.  As professionals, it is our duty to explore all possibilities with our clients and to ensure that they understand the implications of the anonymous donation myth.</p><p>By Anthony M. Brown, Esq. – August 6, 2019</p><p style="text-align: center"><p></p><div style="clear:both"/><p>Contact Time For Families</p><p></p><div id="FSContact1" style="width:99%;max-width:555px"><br /> </p><fieldset id="fscf_form_fieldset1" style="border:1px solid black;width:99%;max-width:550px;padding:10px"><legend>Contact Form</legend><div id="fscf_required1"> <span style="text-align:left">*</span> <span style="text-align:left">indicates required field</span></div><div id="fscf_div_clear1_0" style="clear:both"><div id="fscf_div_field1_0" style="clear:left;float:left;width:99%;max-width:550px;margin-right:10px"></p><div style="text-align:left;padding-top:5px"> <label style="text-align:left" for="fscf_name1">Name:<span style="text-align:left">*</span></label></div><p></p><div style="text-align:left"><br /> </div><p></p></div></div><div id="fscf_div_clear1_1" style="clear:both"><div id="fscf_div_field1_1" style="clear:left;float:left;width:99%;max-width:550px;margin-right:10px"><div 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type-post status-publish format-standard has-post-thumbnail hentry category-brett-kavanaugh category-estate-planning category-featured-articles category-lgbt-supreme-court category-politics category-second-parent-adoption category-supreme-court category-supreme-court-lgbt category-what-does-a-kavanaugh-court-mean-for-the-lgbt-community"><div class="blog-item-wrap"> <a href="https://pflagli.org/what-does-a-kavanaugh-court-mean-for-the-lgbt-community/" title="What does a Kavanaugh Court mean for the LGBT community?" > <img width="200" height="200" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Vote.gay_-200x200.jpeg" class="single-featured wp-post-image" alt="" decoding="async" loading="lazy" srcset="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Vote.gay_-200x200.jpeg 200w, https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Vote.gay_-200x200-150x150.jpeg 150w, https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Vote.gay_-200x200-60x60.jpeg 60w" sizes="(max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px" /> </a><div class="post-inner-content"><header class="entry-header page-header"><h2 class="entry-title"><a href="https://pflagli.org/what-does-a-kavanaugh-court-mean-for-the-lgbt-community/" rel="bookmark">What does a Kavanaugh Court mean for the LGBT community?</a></h2><div class="entry-meta"> <span class="posted-on"><i class="fa fa-calendar"></i> <a href="https://pflagli.org/what-does-a-kavanaugh-court-mean-for-the-lgbt-community/" rel="bookmark"><time class="entry-date published" datetime="2018-10-10T14:38:38-04:00">October 10, 2018</time></a></span><span class="byline"> <i class="fa fa-user"></i> <span class="author vcard"><a class="url fn n" href="https://pflagli.org/author/pflagliorg/">PFLAGLI</a></span></span></div></header><div class="entry-content"><p><html><body><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" width="200" height="200" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Vote.gay_-200x200.jpe" class="attachment-thumbnail size-thumbnail wp-post-image" alt="" style="float:left;margin:0 15px 15px 0"/></p><h2 class="page-heading">What does a Kavanaugh Court mean for the LGBT community?  In short, a generation’s worth of challenges, dismissals and legitimized discrimination. </h2><p>What does a Kavanaugh Court mean for the LGBT community?  Like so many others, I dreaded this question.  I watched in painful anguish during the confirmation circus as the country wrestled with issues as varied and inflammatory as sexual assault, blatant perjury, white entitlement and gender bias.  The outcome was heartbreaking and, dare I say, demoralizing but hopefully the process will bring clarity and power to a growing movement of forward-thinking Americans who will not accept the dismissal of integrity and will stand for the ultimate legitimacy of the Supreme Court.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-5450" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Kavanaugh.Court_-300x206.jpe" alt="" width="300" height="206"/></p><p>There is a very real possibility that the new “Kavanaugh” court will hear one of three possible cases from different federal districts that address Federal anti-discrimination protections for the LGBT community.  This issue may reach the court through a case called Bostock v. Clayton County Board of Commissioners.  This case will ask whether Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 extends the protections which already exist under the Act to gay and transgender litigants.  This is a key question to be asked because, while many states already do provide anti-discrimination protections for LGBT Americans, but there is no Federal standard.  To be fired from your job simply because you are gay or transgender strikes at the heart of the entire community and is exactly the type of protection that Kavanaugh has signaled he would not extend to our community.</p><p>What does a Kavanaugh court mean for the LGBT community?  It may mean that new cases, which touch on the holy grail of anti-gay opposition – religious freedom – offer the conservative court the ability to pay homage to the religious right, from whom they have received unwavering support.  We all know how the “right” has reacted to the courts extending protections to the LGBT community in the past.  Unfortunately, the pendulum is swinging back and because of the nature and timing of judicial nominations, it may take a generation to readjust.</p><p>We are looking at potential religious objection cases like the most recent <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/the-masterpiece-cake-shop-decision-a-narrowly-decided-cautionary-tale/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Masterpiece Cake Shop case</a>, which narrowly allowed a baker to refuse service to a gay couple.  The next set of cases may open the door to more blatant discrimination, all in the name of religion.</p><p>What does the Kavanaugh nomination mean for the LGBT community?  It means that, once again, we have to rise above the humiliating and successful political gamesmanship that kept Merrick Garland off the court and put Brett Kavanaugh on it.  The republican dishonesty and self-service that created our new court is truly appalling, but our first priority must be to vote out those who would continue to play this stacked deck against us. </p><p>Power begets power and the republicans have been quite successful at winning in state races which allowed them to redraw legislative districts in their favor.  This redistricting has laid the foundation for what we are seeing today: unequal representation in congress, an electoral college that favors republicans, the ability to name judges to federal courts across the land and a deepening divide between the few with power and the majority with less and less.  Until we energize the majority of Americans who believe in affordable and comprehensive health care for all Americans, sensible gun regulation and equal treatment under the law (which truly is the majority of this country), we will continue to cede power to those who have quite effectively taken it from us.</p><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5451 alignleft" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Gay.Vote_-300x181.jpe" alt="" width="300" height="181"/>If democrats win just one chamber of the legislature, we will finally see a much needed check on the unfettered power of the current executive.  We may finally be able to investigate the long laundry list of outright violations of the law perpetrated by our President, his cabinet and our new Supreme Court Justice.  But none of this happens if we do not activate and stay engaged.  None of this will happen if we fail to reach out to others in a demonstration of true democratic partnership.  As a community, we must consolidate our political power with immigrants, women, African Americans, health care advocates, sensible gun regulation proponents.  In short, we must vote!</p><p>What does the Kavanaugh nomination mean for the LGBT community?  In the most immediate terms it means that we need to protect ourselves now.  If you are transgender, make sure that your correct gender is reflected on identification documents.  If you are a parent who has not had a <em>court ordered</em> establishment of parentage, get your <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/the-second-parent-adoption-process-new-york-state/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">second parent adoption</a>.  If you are <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/unmarried-estate-planning-information/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">unmarried</a> or are in a polyamorous relationship, do the <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/estate-planning-basics-gay-couples/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">basic estate planning</a> that will protect your family unit in case the unexpected occurs. </p><p>Only we can truly determine how the Kavanaugh nomination will affect the LGBT community.  We have had to fight for our rights before and we will have to continue to fight for the foreseeable future.  But if there is one thing I have learned from my experience in the trenches it is this: you cannot rely on others to create your future.  Step one: vote in November.  Step 2: never give up.</p><p>By Anthony M. 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naming someone as a godparent through a church ritual has no legal weight when a guardian is required after the death of a parent or parents.  I would argue that the exercise of choosing that person is good for the parents as it has them thinking about why someone may be a good choice as a guardian for their children, but that exercise is just that until the choice is declared in a properly executed Last Will and Testament.<img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-5369" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/Gay.Male_.Family.7.18.1-300x200.jpe" alt="guardianship for children" width="300" height="200"/></p><p><em>To be crystal clear, only a child guardian designation made in a properly executed Last Will and Testament is a valid designation of a guardianship for children</em>. </p><p><a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/paths/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Becoming a parent</a> forces that person to think in the long-term.  Imagining your children’s lives without you is certainly not easy but imagining their lives without you <em>and </em>without any clear direction as to where they should live or who they should live with is far worse.</p><p>Hypothetically, if no guardianship for children is established in a properly executed Last Will and Testament, the court will look to see if there are any family members who would petition the court to take on that responsibility.  That person, while being a close family member, may not be the person that a parent would choose for their child.  Also, the court prioritizes the closest living blood relatives, so if you have not made your wishes known through a properly executed guardianship for children in a Will, then a more distant family member who may be the better choice would have an uphill battle in court.</p><p>Another fact that most parents do not realize is that when there is a guardianship for children properly established in your Last Will and Testament, the designated guardian still must petition the court to be made the legal guardian of the child.  This process is streamlined when the deceased parent has made a clear guardianship for children designation, but that designee must still follow the protocols of having the guardianship established in court.</p><p><img loading="lazy" decoding="async" class="size-medium wp-image-5309 alignleft" src="https://pflagli.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/AdobeStock_84409608-300x194.jpe" alt="single" width="300" height="194"/>If no guardianship for children has been properly executed, then the closest living blood relatives must petition the court to be named legal guardian, creating an often time consuming and emotional journey for all involved, especially the children.</p><p>While this article focuses on how to properly execute a guardianship for children, I also want to remind readers of the different ways that parents can provide financially for their children if a parent, or parents, die.  <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/estate-planning-for-dummies/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Basic estate planning is essential</a>.  <a href="http://timeforfamilies.com/estate-planning-trust-family-need-one/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Estate planning with children in the mix offers new options, and challenges</a>.</p><p>Remember also that you can name a guardianship for children even before they are born.  Carefully crafted Wills may refer to “future born children,” as well as defining children to include adopted children, children in utero, children you are in the process of adopting and children who are created through assisted reproductive technology. </p><p>Now that you understand the process, the real work begins.  Being able to have these conversations among parents is crucial. Agreeing upon an appropriate guardianship for children may take time and effort, but it may be the most important decision you will ever make for your family.</p><p> </p><p>Anthony M. 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